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“As I had struggled through the demise of my marriage, and as I had struggled to define for myself the meaning of spiritual faith, I had mistakenly regarded them as separate issues.” - David Brill in A Separate Place. The last thing people thing of when they hear the word “divorce” is grace. Somehow...

Posted by Melody on Dec 31, 2012 | 2 comments

The Freedom of Forgiveness

Divorce brings with it a host of emotions — anger, shame, hurt, sadness, betrayal. I think the last one is perhaps one of the most difficult feelings to process. When get married we stand before God and others, pledging our love to one another, we enter into a covenant – an agreement – that we will...

Posted by Melody on Nov 5, 2011 | 13 comments

Cutting off versus staying connected

After reading a letter today in Dear Abby, it occurred to me how quickly we jump to cutting off from others as a way to “solve” relational issues. The letter was written by a woman who had a problem with her aunt and her knee-jerk reaction was to stop inviting to her home. Thankfully Dear Abby advised against...

Posted by Melody on Oct 30, 2011 | 6 comments

On the Outside Looking In

When you are going through a divorce, sometimes it feels as though you are on the outside, looking in. Many of my clients talk about the pain of feeling like an outsider, as though everyone around them is in a happy marriage. If they attend a church, they often feel like an intruder, as though they no longer have a right...

Posted by Melody on Oct 19, 2011 | 1 comments

Can there be Grace in Divorce?

When I first began to research the topic of grief in divorce, I never expected to find evidence of God’s grace so prevalent in the stories I heard from the women I interviewed. Though they were sharing intimate details of confusion, pain and sorrow, I realized that God had consistently shown up, even in this most...

Posted by Melody on Oct 15, 2011 | 6 comments

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